I thought I'd update everyone on the status of the whole oh relationship dating thing. One word: frustration! It seems matchguy 1 and coffee and scrabble guy have petered out with just one or two dates. No explanation on either end. I do occasionally hear from coffee and scrabble guy on facebook or in an absurdly bizarre text late at night, but match guy 1 hasn't contacted me in close to a month, so I'm guessing he has moved on. It's not the moving on part that I mind, just would have liked to get some notification that I've been rejected (okay maybe that's harsh) rather than my mind wondering.
It's made me kind of skeptical lately. I know it's been a fairly short amount of time on the dating scene, but I just keep wondering what I'm doing wrong or why I can't read these guys better. For example, I was on a date tonight with a new match guy (I'm calling him tennis guy for now), and it seemed to go well overall. He seems like a casual, laid back type of fella. But when everyone has ended the date with "I had a really good time," what am I to think? Is that line just the new formal thing to say these days even if you've had a crappy time?
I guess my feeling is this: if you go on one date, and you know right away, you two don't click, then just say that and move on. But if you think possibly there is something there, then go on a few more dates to see how it goes. Don't these guys know the 3 date rule?? Okay, I made that up, but I do have a 3 therapy visit rule when finding a therapist, so I think dating is kind of similar. Hey, maybe that should be its own post--how therapy finding is like dating. LOL
Anyway, I've also become a bit skeptical about e-mail, something I used to always insist on first. My experience with everyone on e-mail is that they all seem like cool guys with interesting stuff to say, but then they don't leave that same kind of "cool" expression per se in real time visiting. And that really does seem like the only sure-fire true way of actually seeing how someone is.
But I still continue on anyway in hopes of maybe finding a close to "Mr. Right" or something of that nature. On that note, I may be going on another date on Sunday with ecology guy. Again, no hopes really but we'll see. I think part of my problem is that when it comes to these situations, I'm still a bit of a hopeless romantic daydreamer. :sigh: