Friday, April 30, 2010

Facebook vent

This morning, I woke up to an e-mail saying a person from high school had commented on my facebook activity. This was a guy who was an acquaintance in high school. This is a guy who never comments on my stuff. I've commented a few times on his, but we are certainly not buddies of any sort.

In fact, our general views on life are very different with him being very conservative, me more moderate, leaning more towards the liberal side. If I had to describe him, he would be the "good 'ole country boy." Of course, there is nothing wrong with that, that's just the mental image I perceive of him.

I think what gets to me more than anything is how patronizing he made me feel with his comments. We took an opposing view of the issue, and we both tried to argue our points, respectfully, nonetheless (me backed with scientific data). However, the words he took were of an offensive nature which truly did not sit well with me and made me feel like he was patronizing me. I have enough self-esteem issues as it is, so it certainly doesn't help when someone makes me feel like I do not know what I'm talking about when this is my choice of career. It takes every ounce of my fiber not to reply back when I could ask so many other questions to his last response, but in the end, I know it is just better to let it go. It is not worth wasting my breath when we disagree on that issue, as I'm sure disagree on many more.

Sadly, I wish some of my friends would have defended me or even ones who may have joined that group. But oh well, that's just how it goes.

Okay, vent over, and time to write more thought provoking stuff. I'll likely post this weekend as that is when I have the most free time.

On a side note, I did find it interesting that that particular thread did not show up on his profile as other stuff did.


secret said...

Good for you for just walking away! I've been thinking a lot lately about getting rid of facebook, but haven't been able to convince myself yet.
By the way, I found your blog the other day and now I'm following it as well as writing one of my own! You can find me at

Cammy said...

I didn't see that convo when it was going on, but I just went and looked at it, and you're right, I think he was patronizing and seemed to assume that having a Y chromosome boosts his IQ by 100 points (I originally plugged in a rude term for another uniquely male feature but decided not to pollute your blog, but I get heated when someone offends my friends).

Major kudos to you for being the more mature one and not prolonging it, because with people like that you truly can never win any other way. Just for the record, from an outside perspective the conversation makes it obvious that he just wanted to assert his knowledge without listening to you, I don't think it made you look naive or wrong at all.

Tiptoe said...

Secret, thanks for your comment. FB is strange sometimes. It's great in some ways but not in others. I'll check out your blog soon.

Cammy, thanks so much reading those posts and validating me. Ugh, that guy drove me nuts, but I know it was better to walk away.