Saturday, January 3, 2009

Accepting compliments

I signed on quickly to check my e-mail before my run this afternoon and received an out of the blue comment:

Subject: so pretty.


Tiptoe, You are Beautiful actually.

The comment came from my cousin on my mother's side who recently found me on facebook. It was so surprising as I had just sent a message to him telling him how my mother should join facebook since he is on there now. (I really don't want her to be, but it seems she has some other friends who want her to join). I'm not particularly close with this cousin, and have only talked to him a handful of times in my life. However, I think if we lived closer, he'd be my type of guy to hang around with. He's a bit of a care-free spirit which helps me be less serious at times.

I've never taken compliments well, especially compliments that surround beauty and physical attributes. They are probably the hardest for me to digest simply because I don't feel that way about myself. And I can't realize how someone else might think that of me. But for this moment, I'm going to try to accept and swallow this compliment. Maybe there is something to be said for "fake it until you make it." Perhaps even allowing a little positive belief to seep in will reap rewards in the end.

5 comments:

Kim said...

Aww, that's so sweet! It's hard for me to take compliments too. I think it's because there's such a disconnect. The way we see ourselves is often SO different from how others see us. It's kind of fun to see ourselves through their eyes every now and then :)

MelissaS said...

i blow off compliments.i'm waiting for world concurrence before i can even think any ONE is right. this is a great post-- it made me stop and think about how many compliments i completely dismiss. it's kind of sad. i do hope you can savor this one. nothing prompted him. he wouldn't have said it if it weren't true. enjoy!

gutsinarut said...

I agree with the poster above: he wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it! Compliments can be hard to accept. But when you know the person is sincere, you should relish it! =)

Lola Snow said...

It is really hard to take a compliment if you cannot reconcile what that person is saying with yourself. I think fake it till you make it might be a good way to go. Or even if you don't think the person giving the compliment is completely correct, maybe admit that they aren't incorrect either.

Lola x

Tiptoe said...

Thanks for the responses everyone. I have tried to relish this, at least for yesterday, and just be reminded that people see a lot in me that I simply do not see. I think it's something we all need to recognize and try to find the balance somewhere.