tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post7109850778507186788..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: "Baggage"Tiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-22175985114561747632009-05-28T00:44:56.507-04:002009-05-28T00:44:56.507-04:00Shannon, thanks so much for your comments and shar...Shannon, thanks so much for your comments and sharing your website. It looks like a good, valuable resource.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-87867743503363436692009-05-27T16:56:18.257-04:002009-05-27T16:56:18.257-04:00Hi Tiptoe-I love this post about how to handle dir...Hi Tiptoe-I love this post about how to handle dirty laundry. I can really relate to Jenni's post on dating as well - I've read it more than once. :)<br /><br />I wanted to share a free resource with you and your readers - three months ago we launched MentorCONNECT, the first global free online mentoring community. We offer one-on-one mentoring matches between people in strong recovery and people who need support. We also have a live chat e-support group each Monday night. <br /><br />The website for more info is:<br />www.key-to-life.com/mentorconnect<br /><br />Keep up the great blogging and I'll look forward to reading more!<br /><br />Warmly,<br />Shannon for MentorCONNECT<br />www.key-to-life.comShannon Cuttshttp://www.key-to-life.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-45377161271654839802009-05-19T09:44:00.000-04:002009-05-19T09:44:00.000-04:00Good to know other can relate.
Kara, I think when...Good to know other can relate.<br /><br />Kara, I think when we can let go of some of the baggage, it can make a relationship better. It just kind of depends on where you are with it.<br /><br />Kristina, thanks for the compliment. I do like to be a "thinker." Sometimes, it is hard to find that balance of how much to reveal/not reveal. But you are right that it is more important on being genuine and real.<br /><br />Shannon, being strong can have so many different meanings. People have often told me how strong I am. It can certainly be a lot to bear on one's shoulders. I know there are others out there who are equivalent strong beings, it's just a matter of finding them. ;-)<br /><br />On the same token, even if you may be strong, being vulnerable at times is okay too.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-15135334741086070682009-05-19T00:19:50.371-04:002009-05-19T00:19:50.371-04:00i have done this many times. all the time, really....i have done this many times. all the time, really. any potential relationship has been me 'laying it all out on the table.'<br />i want people to know what they're in for.<br />the thing with me is that i seem to choose people who are drawn to me BECAUSE of my honesty and strength in all i've come through...<br />so it becomes a source of, uh, struggle.<br />i'm always the 'strong one,' hence i never really have romantic relationships.<br />i'd love to meet someone who wasn't weaker than i am...<br />because even though i 'lay it all out' and they see that as a sign of my strength (which it IS) - it takes a lot to be me. <br />blah.<br />people don't realize how much we go through - even if we are 'strong.'<br /><br />anyway - yeah.<br />i think it can also be a sort of sabotage thing, too. in the past i did that. i used my ED as a crutch to keep away anyone who might see me as sexual.shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07352428095582106239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-70528138809189924162009-05-19T00:18:44.899-04:002009-05-19T00:18:44.899-04:00Tiptoe,
I must say that I think of you as "wise" a...Tiptoe,<br />I must say that I think of you as "wise" and provocative in the posts that you write. And your thoughts at the end, I might have to write that down and take it everywhere with me.<br />Like you, I've gone both ways, exposed too much too soon and zipped myself up, closed off to the world, and I think that both are harmful. <br />At the moment, I don't necessarily share every detail with people whom I've just met or even those who know me now but did not know me 'at my worst'. And I do find it difficult to divulge THAT much information.<br />But I am real with them, and I let my guard down, and that is what is important.Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208374967597840745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-22598112155558868482009-05-18T20:39:00.000-04:002009-05-18T20:39:00.000-04:00There was one relationship where I let out too muc...There was one relationship where I let out too much baggage too soon and it did not bode well. But I think what you said is important that we need to not be fearful of our own baggage. I think that will bring confidence that will be good for any relationship.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02777608805308517582noreply@blogger.com