tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post5412656944878355362..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: Dealing with a family member's weight situationTiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-40503364743557312382017-02-28T08:27:20.677-05:002017-02-28T08:27:20.677-05:00It's so nice post .It's so nice post .check my blog updatehttp://ean24.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-4218002162486446712009-09-02T01:48:45.913-04:002009-09-02T01:48:45.913-04:00Thank you everyone for your concern and thoughts. ...Thank you everyone for your concern and thoughts. It was very helpful for me.<br /><br />Eating Alone, I appreciate getting your point of view. A medically supervised diet might or might not have worked for him. I think he found anything where he had to "restrict" himself a little daunting on his own.<br /><br />I agree with your points about how the surgery can be detrimental if the mental health aspects are not addressed. I'm very glad you are working on that now and will hopefully be in a better place both physically and mentally.<br /><br />Rachel, yes, lap band is reversible. Your points about WLS and people feeling like they can't talk about their side effects is an important one to address. That whole feeling of thinking that this is what it takes to be thin or healthy seems a bit paramount for many after this procedure. <br /><br />Dark and Twisty, thanks for your thoughts.<br /><br />Kara, yes, I still read your blog. :-) I'm behind on blogs in general so haven't been commenting as much in general. If there were just more than 24 hours in a day!<br /><br />Melissa, thanks so much for telling me I was fair in this post. I did need to hear that as I'm always worried about offending. <br /><br />As for me, it doesn't affect me on a daily basis, simply because I am not there with him. For me, it is more of a worry and concern for himself and others around him. In general, I seem to be doing what is "normal for me.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-23927372226286270892009-08-31T19:58:00.340-04:002009-08-31T19:58:00.340-04:00i think you were very fair in this post. i can'...i think you were very fair in this post. i can't imagine anyone being offended.<br /><br />i'm on the fence too about what i think about these surgeries. in this case, he's made his decision, and you sound very supportive and considerate. <br /><br />that being said, i think the most important thing is how this effects YOU. as someone with years of EDs, i don't know i'd feel in the face of the surgery, it's after-effects, and how your mom's husband will be eating (restricting?)<br /><br />maybe i'm over-stepping. no matter what you're feeling, i hope you take the best possible care of yourself.<br />melissaI Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-49317729377802182782009-08-31T13:26:10.160-04:002009-08-31T13:26:10.160-04:00I really appreciate this post. Very interesting. ...I really appreciate this post. Very interesting. Thanks for writing. Sorry I haven't been very good about commenting on your blog lately. I still read, and I will do better about commenting. I hope you still read my blog...Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02777608805308517582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-75215754545467872312009-08-31T10:32:03.722-04:002009-08-31T10:32:03.722-04:00I hope that the surgery goes well for him.I hope that the surgery goes well for him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-46858176719099256462009-08-31T10:06:38.144-04:002009-08-31T10:06:38.144-04:00Reading your post, I do have to say that I'm r...Reading your post, I do have to say that I'm relieved that he's at least getting the lap band surgery, which is reversible (I believe), instead of a much more permanent and digestive-altering surgical procedure. <br /><br />If this were my family member, I'd probably try and be as supportive as I can since it's clear that he's already made what he feels is the best decision for him. I would be on-hand, however, to listen to him talk about any problems from the surgery and offer as much help in that respect as I can. Many people who've had WLS keep mum on any negative side effects because A) they think that they're worth it or that they deserve it because they're losing weight; and B) the negative side effects of WLS aren't advertised much, so people who have them can feel like they're just the anomaly. <br /><br />Best wishes for a problem-free procedure.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01460519337017413765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-65200907895555298922009-08-31T09:31:19.300-04:002009-08-31T09:31:19.300-04:00The lap band was my last option as well. The Dr. t...The lap band was my last option as well. The Dr. that does it also ran the center where I went for my diet. If you can talk to him about OPTIFAST. Yeah, I know it suck's and really fed into my ED but it allowed me to get to a much healthier place for my body. With my T we are working on getting my mind there as well. I know the fun of yo/yo dieting for many years and the toll it taks. Even with that I'm glad that this Dr took the time to tell me that while she could do it, she hated doing them. You don't get nutrion the same you have a much higher chance of morbitiy (?) within 5/10 years of even not losing the weight. This procedure does not address the issue's and it doesn't always work! <br /><br />Sorry I get pumped up about this. For most people being normal or a little over or under is just about nutrion. I think most people could get the weight off if they went to a nutrionist for a 6 month period and still enjoy life and food. For some, those of us with ED's then it's a little harder but if you don't get that under control first this surgery can really hurt you.<br /><br />I know that people think that this is there last chance. It's not. The medically suppervised diet I went on I lost over 200 lbs. Since I got off it I've lost another 40. This was done in a about 16 months. I don't think I'll put it back on but I am not sure. Durring the program I learned a lot about food and what normal eating is supposed to be, now with the help from the nutrionist and therapist I'm working on getting it right.<br />No binging, no restricting, just proper nution, and a healthy lifestyle.<br /><br />Wow really sorry about getting on the soapbox.Eating With Othershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885274679677042833noreply@blogger.com