tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post5285026400471775253..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: Shopping is a lost causeTiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-74320309653144751372010-04-28T23:58:17.480-04:002010-04-28T23:58:17.480-04:00Everyone, thanks so much for all the feedback. It...Everyone, thanks so much for all the feedback. It was very much appreciated and helpful. I will definitely take into consideration everyone's suggestions. I'll likely do both--check online stores and go to a nice place to find clothes. I'm still debating whether to do this all in one fell swoop or in increments. Either way, I will keep everyone posted on my shopping excursions.<br /><br />M, btw, our shirts are from Land's End. :-)Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-85392936858264306522010-04-26T19:31:38.945-04:002010-04-26T19:31:38.945-04:00I had to do a major Khaki Quest a while back, it w...I had to do a major Khaki Quest a while back, it was very frustrating. And believe me, I HAVE cried on shopping trips, so don't feel like you're inflating the issue! I seem to have had the most success at Ann Taylor Loft, they have each item/style in 3 different cuts, depending on how much room you need in the hips and various other details of tailoring that are over my head. They're a little pricey, but good for staples you'll get a lot of use out of.<br /><br />Good luck, and maybe promise yourself a "reward", like an escape to the book or pet store at the end of the shopping trip, to end it on a calming note?Cammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181004571609998125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-47704618985290372752010-04-26T09:12:22.515-04:002010-04-26T09:12:22.515-04:00Since you have several weeks, have you thought abo...Since you have several weeks, have you thought about trying Lands End ... they have such a range of styles and sizes, online/phone help (and where you can tell someone all of your concerns and stipulations. You could try that one pair when it comes in the mail (avoiding shopping drama, panic and burn-out, at least initially), and if it works ... order several more. If not, at least you have tried the path of least resistance first. <br /><br />You could also browse online for brick-and-mortar stores that carry the styles and sizes of pants you're looking for ... before heading out. You might even check around and see if there are uniform stores/outlets/businesses, where they sell uniform basics, including those for schools. You also never know how sizes are going to work, either, so you could be flexible about trying clothing that might be sold as girls, boys or mens but might fit your criteria better.<br /><br />This sounds like it could be an upsetting and overwhelming experience, but I bet once you actually begin to wade through it ... good, bad or neutral ... shopping might hold less power over you. Hope so! Good luck and good shopping :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11037539254326775210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-90865919398133334502010-04-26T09:10:20.956-04:002010-04-26T09:10:20.956-04:00I really struggle with this too. So hard to feel g...I really struggle with this too. So hard to feel good about doing well in your recovery when you constantly have to remind yourself that your body is fine. The feelings can be so strong and just take over! But somehow I figure self acceptance must be amazing once I do reach it, because I've had to work really hard for it.<br /><br />Maybe you can try to go out and make a day of the shopping? Focus on something else, making the pants just a minor part of your day? For example meet up with a friend for coffee, before or after browsing a few stores. And I agree with Sarah, an encouraging and helpful salesperson can do wonders! Don't be afraid to ask for help, because they can really make a huge difference.<br />Best of luck- hope you find something nice and that you can look yourself in the mirror and feel great:)Mamiehttp://mamies-meplace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-44862200145059950212010-04-26T08:26:16.816-04:002010-04-26T08:26:16.816-04:00Here's what I want you to do: go someplace nic...Here's what I want you to do: go someplace nice, like Ann Taylor, Loft, Nordstrom, Banana Republic. I know you work with dogs, but if you go to one of these places usually they have people whose sole job is to help fit you in pants that make you feel and look good. Tell them what you're looking for; try some on. Buy them. If you are going to wear them every day, it's worth it to spend some $$ to get ones that really help you feel good about yourself. I think self acceptance can be helped along by a really great salesperson :)Sarah at Journeying With Himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00823110479188213370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-10388146380360135172010-04-26T08:12:18.601-04:002010-04-26T08:12:18.601-04:00I hate that when you find a pair that will fit you...I hate that when you find a pair that will fit your waist but your legs have no room to breath. OUCH!<br /><br />Think of it this way every one will be wearing them so it's not a look, it's a uniform ;D<br /><br />I'm glad you can at least try on so many things. I've been shoping on line for so long now, I just buy the same things all the time so I avoid it. That's not the best way to handle the BDD but it's working for me. Except that nothing really fits.Eating With Othershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885274679677042833noreply@blogger.com