tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post4869625096763099148..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: To therapy or notTiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-42245141217791815912008-09-04T00:30:00.000-04:002008-09-04T00:30:00.000-04:00Kyla, thanks for the support. Yeah, it's a tough ...Kyla, thanks for the support. Yeah, it's a tough decision for me, but I really do know it would probably be beneficial to me.<BR/><BR/>Grey, thanks for your input. You give good validity in going back to someone I've had experience with. I do admit to dreading the whole start over process. <BR/><BR/>I haven't made any calls yet. I think that is one of the hardest things for me to do initially. I'm going to start with Therapist C. even though she is in the same office as Therapist A. whom I didn't mesh well with. Plus, her office was very drab. Hopefully, it's better now.<BR/><BR/>My mantra for this week, "just make the phone call."Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-77309838851257070332008-09-03T12:35:00.000-04:002008-09-03T12:35:00.000-04:00Sounds like you have made the decision TO go back ...Sounds like you have made the decision TO go back to therapy... I go back and forth on the same issue as well. I was in treatment for 6 straight years, and have been out of therapy for 15 months now. I probably should go back, and I think about it... but don't think I'm in a place right now where I really think that therapy can help me (I've been stuck for years).<BR/><BR/>Anyway, you have a lot of therapists to choose from. I know your reason for not seeing a professional that you've seen before is the fear of failure... and everyone will tell you that you have NOT failed... but I would like to weigh in and say that I think it would be beneficial to see someone you've seen before. Starting over is just that -- starting over. At the beginning. You've started over how many times now? It's just going to take a lot of time... and put off the stuff that you really need to deal with. Picking up with a professional who knows some of your history is a big advantage. If there is one who's treatment style meshes with yours... I would definitely go for that.<BR/><BR/>When I've been able to return to doctors, therapists, and nutritionists that I saw in that past, I was so much more open and comfortable with them the second time around. It was almost a relief to be able to see them... to see someone who I knew already understood; who I DIDN'T have to start all over with. The relationship was pretty valuable.<BR/><BR/>Just my two cents! Good for you for going back -- good luck!greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00636223355539307401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-25133864788742314262008-09-03T01:57:00.000-04:002008-09-03T01:57:00.000-04:00this sounds like a very tough decision for you! B...this sounds like a very tough decision for you! But I am glad you are so aware of yourself and what you need. I think in your heart you'll know what's best, even if its' a tough decision. - KylaKChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08494278838895701434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-274361967804461162008-09-02T21:02:00.000-04:002008-09-02T21:02:00.000-04:00Kristina, thank you so much for responding. I rea...Kristina, thank you so much for responding. I really needed to hear that. You are right that it is often difficult to go into therapy when you're not in a crisis mode. It goes back to the whole validity thing, at least for me anyway. You're right that therapy can be more effective when you are stable and things are not so chaotic.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to make some phone calls this week--ask some standard questions and go from there. I normally have a 3- appt. rule to see whether a T. and I click. I'm going to see how it works with my insurance too since that is a factor right now. I'll keep you posted.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-14327789193963801162008-09-02T11:00:00.000-04:002008-09-02T11:00:00.000-04:00Tiptoe,I think, for so many people that suffered (...Tiptoe,<BR/><BR/>I think, for so many people that suffered (in the past) from a pretty big mental health issue, it seems indulgent to return to therapy when we aren't in "crisis mode". I'm not saying that is where you are; but to just work on ourselves and improve our quality of life and work out all of those issues with our parents and coming to terms with 'who am i" - well, this doesn't seem urgent or necessary enough to truly warrant therapy. <BR/>BUT, I think it's actually far more effective to be in therapy and to do the hard work when we are stable and not dealing with day-to-day drama. That's my take.<BR/>So, good for you for wanting to return. Or for considering therapy again.<BR/>Can you see the new people, try things out with them, AND with previous or "known" therapists? And see how things feel? See which person feels like a good fit for you?<BR/>Good luck,<BR/>KristinaKristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208374967597840745noreply@blogger.com