tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post3885694083931141422..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: Missing things...Tiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-23444940903545645552010-04-01T10:20:51.830-04:002010-04-01T10:20:51.830-04:00I still think about my Grayson nearly every day. ...I still think about my Grayson nearly every day. I also had him cremated and planned to use part of his ashes in some way in my garden as a memorial to him, but haven't decided what yet exactly. <br /><br />Sometimes I feel guilty for loving the kittens as fiercely as I do since the only reason we have them is because Grayson is gone. But then I remind myself that the best way to honor a pet's memory is to open your home to another unwanted pet like, say, a bunny ;) And by you taking in the bunny, it allows me to take in another unwanted bunny, so in the end, you're helping two animals in need.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01460519337017413765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-44810819247026239932010-03-29T08:07:34.500-04:002010-03-29T08:07:34.500-04:00Tiptoe,
I think feelings connected to loss of Baxt...Tiptoe,<br />I think feelings connected to loss of Baxter are normal and very important for some kind of definitie inner goodbye. <br />Missing therapist is normal too, I think, so don't worry about it much. I sometimes miss very very unimportant things or feelings- for example some kind of light and weather, seasonal food or random people I met even without knowing their names. Sorry for rambling I quess I want to say that missing something/someone is normal, allow yourself this feelings, they can heal like tears can (at least in me it works). <br />And woot for bunny!<br />olaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-55232100255542518222010-03-29T00:57:55.640-04:002010-03-29T00:57:55.640-04:00Kim, you're right one about that this is human...Kim, you're right one about that this is human nature. I have such a hard time with not beating myself up about this sort of stuff. I know sadness is a feeling that we all feel.<br /><br />M, it's not so much liking to talk with someone about my life, it's that I felt comfortable enough with C. to do so and did like her feedback. It took me a long time to get there though, but I certainly understand your point. I believe you are right there is a code for "transitions."<br /><br />Though I think I'm dealing with everything that has been thrown at me fairly well, sometimes I feel like I'm waiting for that part where I afll to pieces and want someone there to hold me up y'know?<br /><br />I feel for you too with the loss of Henry. It is so hard losing our pets, and they do become a part of us. I hope your son is able to grieve as well.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-5101270887220026912010-03-28T21:11:53.182-04:002010-03-28T21:11:53.182-04:00I think you have plenty of reasons to seek therapy...I think you have plenty of reasons to seek therapy, merely if you like the idea of talking about your life and thoughts and getting feedback. However, I think there's actually a therapy code (diagnostic code) for "life transitions" ... and you have hefty doses of that with the move and the job and the loss, along with managing a segue from a life more rife with issues of eating disorder, trauma and depression to one filled with personal and job growth, healthy risk-taking and dating.<br /><br />I feel you on Baxter ... we lost Henry at the same time, and he also would have been 11 this June. Lots of things every day that are bittersweet reminders, even the storms tonight that would have frightened him so. I think pets are part of our identities forever ... No. 2 son was saying this weekend how it was still so hard for him: "I used to be known as the boy with a pack of greyhounds, and now I only have two."<br /><br />Take care of you ... let yourself be sad ... and proud of the progress and the good things.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11037539254326775210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-3651499783042358902010-03-28T20:50:18.499-04:002010-03-28T20:50:18.499-04:00I think it's totally normal to still miss Baxt...I think it's totally normal to still miss Baxter and C. I sometimes think of my old therapist, Michelle, and I haven't seen her since, oh, 2003 or so. I miss her in many ways. And I still miss my cat who disappeared in September. I cried for months during random moments of thinking of her. Let yourself feel what you feel...Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524913753671188764noreply@blogger.com