tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post1975487369120229063..comments2023-10-28T04:45:48.353-04:00Comments on Between Living and Existing: That piece of fabric called the bikiniTiptoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-29521489439808182472009-06-09T00:45:36.778-04:002009-06-09T00:45:36.778-04:00Kara, I agree with you that we place so much empha...Kara, I agree with you that we place so much emphasis on body image, and especially in the summer. I hope you too will one day be able to wear swimwear and feel confident and okay about yourself.<br /><br />Sarah, thanks for sharing your story. You give such inspiration! I'm glad you were able to face the fear and now own 4 bikinis! I think realizing that other people don't really care is very commendable.<br /><br />Thanks for the link too. the article was good.<br /><br />JEI, I feel similarly with you in shorts. I only wear shorts if I am working out, but that's it. It kind of saddens me at the cute pairs of shorts I have in my drawers that have not been touched in years.<br /><br />Interesting about the one-piece but that makes sense too. I hear you on body disproportionate. I'm top heavy too and never find the right size. Plus, I have one side of my body larger than the other, so that doesn't help either.<br /><br />Kim, I'm also with you on tank tops. Don't wear those either due to size issues in my shoulders.<br /><br />I think showing skin can be a scary thing in general.You display more of yourself then.<br /><br />GBML, :-( I hope you are able to get out this summer, though I do know it can get hot where you live.<br /><br />Sarah, great attitude to have. I hope you sport your new bikinis with pride! I agree with you on the fear of other people looking at you. Our heads really like to mess with us.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-85581122979503672082009-06-08T15:12:07.276-04:002009-06-08T15:12:07.276-04:00Weirdly enough, I just ordered 2 online! I'm p...Weirdly enough, I just ordered 2 online! I'm pretty okay in bikinis, but my mind is always racing about whether Im being looked at, which causes anxiety. Im working on my confidence wearing one, but I really do like them and dammit I will wear one!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034980786297421545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-62325190066448968602009-06-08T12:28:08.622-04:002009-06-08T12:28:08.622-04:00Summer to me = stay inside. Period, end of story....Summer to me = stay inside. Period, end of story.Wrapped up in Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18210700542140339831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-69586933781687472292009-06-08T12:09:28.838-04:002009-06-08T12:09:28.838-04:00Um, I'm self-conscious in shorts and a tank to...Um, I'm self-conscious in shorts and a tank top. I have worn a bikini, but it's not comfortable for me. If I have to wear a bathing suit, I try to get a one-piece, or I liked those "Tankinis" when those were popular. Those suits with the boy-short type bottoms are ok too. I just hate showing my skin. Sometimes it's because I think I'm too thin and sometimes it's because I think I'm too fat. Oh, the joys of distorted body image!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524913753671188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-85884473319859065532009-06-08T11:11:34.963-04:002009-06-08T11:11:34.963-04:00I hate going out in a bathing suit, period. It'...I hate going out in a bathing suit, period. It's just as embarrassing for me as wearing shorts is. <br /><br />But I feel as though I'm an anomaly. I feel more self-conscious when I wear a one-piece because I feel like it displays my "rolls of fat" more prominently. I usually aim for a tankini or bikini when shopping. <br /><br />I'm kind of awkwardly proportioned, so it's difficult to find a bathing suit that fits, anyway. I'm very top heavy, so string bikinis are out.Just Eat It!https://www.blogger.com/profile/18063645003673364407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-3538827309939189372009-06-08T09:10:35.459-04:002009-06-08T09:10:35.459-04:00All throughout high school, I always felt insecure...All throughout high school, I always felt insecure in my bikini and finally resorted in 11th grade to a series of tankinis. (My tummy is the area I hate the most on my body.) <br /><br />I wore a tankini again until 2 years ago when my old ones were faded and too small (I'm not supposed to fit into a girls' size 12 swimsuit from Limited Too as a 21 year old??) I needed to go shopping. <br /><br />I knew I couldn't go swimsuit shopping alone as I had only been weight restored for around 6 months. I took D and told him "I think they all look horrible; pick which one looks the best." Obviously, as a guy, he picked a bikini. I modeled it for my roommate and family with the tags still on it to make sure I could return it, but everyone reinforced how good I looked. I still didn't believe them, but I decided that I might as well wear one if they were all advocating that I should. Now, I own 4 bikinis. I won't lie and say that I always feel comfortable in them, but I wear a cover up on days when I am feeling particularly bloaty. <br /><br />I've come to realize that it really REALLY doesn't matter--almost everyone at the beach has a little something hanging out there and I've never been rushed by someone telling me I need to put my ugly self away. At this age, I am probably the hottest I'll ever be, even though I can't see it, so I might as well wear the bikini now. (The fact that they don't even make slenderizing one pieces in my size is telling me something too, even if I don't want to listen.)<br /><br />It also helps that I bought a really REALLY nice bikini--originally $158--at TJ Maxx for $30. It is really luxe and makes me feel like a movie star. <br /><br />One more thing you might enjoy: http://www.twirlit.com/2009/06/05/you-are-already-swimsuit-ready/Sarah at Journeying With Himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00823110479188213370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699361536242687629.post-89293316721151103902009-06-08T08:47:03.486-04:002009-06-08T08:47:03.486-04:00You know, I have never worn a bikini in my whole l...You know, I have never worn a bikini in my whole life!! I've ALWAYS been too ashamed and body-conscious. It's hard for me even to put on a one piece much less a bikini. This summer I have sworn to myself that I won't even put on a bathing suit unless I lose weight. It's sad that body image is all tied up with bathing suits because summer should be fun.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02777608805308517582noreply@blogger.com